Hi Vanessa, thanks for writing this so clearly. My team has 5 members with distinct personalities. I get along easy with few and few are a challenge on continuous basis.
One observation I like to share, when I did talk 1 on 1, the other person perceive it as “ oh they are doing something wrong”. When things get clearer and conversation move forward they notice they don’t need a chat with me since the org chart (contract position ) favors on their side so there is no incentive to them. Eventually I realized that I need to find a way to make the most of good relations that I naturally built. What’s your take on this dynamics?
If your goal is to build trust - and members on your team do not see the value in meeting - it's important to understand what WOULD be valuable to them? Understanding what people value helps us to provide that - so they are looking forward to time with you because it helps them get what they need and want. That's where I would start - but let me know if I didn't answer your question.
That makes sense. I have to identify and focus on that. Thanks for the suggestion
You got this!!
Hi Vanessa, thanks for writing this so clearly. My team has 5 members with distinct personalities. I get along easy with few and few are a challenge on continuous basis.
One observation I like to share, when I did talk 1 on 1, the other person perceive it as “ oh they are doing something wrong”. When things get clearer and conversation move forward they notice they don’t need a chat with me since the org chart (contract position ) favors on their side so there is no incentive to them. Eventually I realized that I need to find a way to make the most of good relations that I naturally built. What’s your take on this dynamics?
Thanks for sharing Anjana!
If your goal is to build trust - and members on your team do not see the value in meeting - it's important to understand what WOULD be valuable to them? Understanding what people value helps us to provide that - so they are looking forward to time with you because it helps them get what they need and want. That's where I would start - but let me know if I didn't answer your question.